You cannot define a sexuality around non-binary people in the same way that you can define a sexuality around men and women. It’s not a third gender. It exists outside the binary. Non-binary is an umbrella term, not an actual gender in of itself. Most non-binary people do not identify as the same gender in the same way men and women do. Some non-binary people describe their gender with the term non-binary and that is their own gender, but not everyone who calls themselves non-binary as a term for their gender identity thinks of themselves as the same gender in the same way men and women do. So I’m just saying, the many attempts people have made to define a new sexuality around non-binary people are futile and unnecessary.
Some non-binary people are comfortable dating people who identify as straight, gay, or lesbian, and some are not. That just depends from individual to individual. You don’t need to change the term for your entire sexuality just because you want to date a non-binary person. You don’t need to identify as pansexual or polysexual or whatever to date a non-binary person. If you’re a lesbian and you’re dating a non-binary person, that doesn’t mean you’re misgendering that person with your sexuality. If you’re only attracted to women and you’re dating a non-binary person, that does not mean you see them as a woman. You just can’t define a sexuality around your attraction to that person, and that’s ok, you don’t need to.
Another thing, non-binary people can be any sexuality. Non-binary people don’t have to identify as pansexual. There are non-binary people who are lesbians, there are non-binary people who are gay, there are non-binary people are bisexual. To say you must identify as pansexual to date a non-binary person is especially disrespectful to non-binary people who do not identify as such. Non-binary people can’t be defined under a sexuality and non-binary people don’t all have the same sexuality.
An asexual and pansexual become room-mates and have wacky adventures
The show is called ‘All or Nothing’
Plot twist: the asexual is really super outgoing and is a huge flirt while the pansexual is extremely socially awkward and has trouble ordering coffee let alone getting a date.
we need to bring back anon kink memes in a big way. no one is horny enough anymore. the other night i found a fic on an old kink meme from 2009 that was so well-written and also so raunchy and foul (affectionate) it could have stripped paint off my car. there is something about truly unapologetic filth that can be transcendent and tender and marrow deep and maybe if we all leaned into being anonymous depraved little weirdos again we’d learn how to have more fun.
